Being an entrepreneur is full of exciting and daunting challenges. When choosing your business model and what you really want to do and who you want to serve, the question of the ideal client quickly comes up. Another way of looking at this is to ask two questions:
Who do you want to serve?
What is the larger problem you want to solve or address?
In love, your two questions would be:
Who do I want to share my life with?
What are our individual and shared ways of looking at the world?
Whatever the area of your life, asking these questions and finding the answer that resonates with you is the same as finding your voice, knowing what you want to say and who you want to speak to, which language you want to use, which medium suits your audience (business or personal). This all sounds very technical and impersonal but it is actually essential to getting down to the very personal basis you need to practice your craft with impeccability and fully serve your clients or to find a true life partner with whom you can be your authentic self.
Below are 7 tips which work for me in finding my true voice.
1) Get quiet– Tune into your inner voice, your intuition. Your intuition is NEVER wrong and knows no judgment, has no limiting beliefs and knows no social conventions or restrictions. It is your unwavering guide. Anything that takes your into stillness of mind, not necessarily of body can bring you into a state where you awaken your intuition. See more tips in my intuition guide: 3 steps to heighten your intuition
2) Decide what your values are– Everyone has leading values which we use as a basis for our actions. Being clear on what these values are and on what is non- negotiable for you helps you to always act and speak from your basic values which means you are using your true voice. Find out what your leading values are in my Value List.
3) Keep a journal– Write down what inspires you, what you notice around you, things others have said that resonate with you. Look for patterns and themes, to find what you find interesting or feel strongly about. If you really get into journaling you might decide to keep a variety of journals.
4) Practice courage– speak up literally in situations you are not happy about, say no to things you are not interested in, don’t just go along with social situations in which you are uncomfortable.
5) Be impeccable with your word– This is the 1st agreement from the best –selling book ‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz. Broken down it basically means don’t engage in gossip and only say positive things about and to yourself and others.
6) Learn from others whose voice resonates with yours– Famous singers begin by covering other singers’ songs, literally running their voices along the scales of the songs of their idols. Nothing is wrong with imitation when used as a starting point for inspiration but don’t settle for being a cheap imitation of an original. Instead emulate, learn by example, get the jump start of inspiration and then let your own voice shine.
7) Get feedback– do your research, talk to others on the topics of interest to you and learn from their reactions, perspectives and ideas. Broadening your view on these topics will simultaneously help you to focus your opinion and thus refine your true voice.
Over to you!
What strategies do you use to find your true voice? Let me know!
NB: Photo taken from deviantART website, artist Ravenari