Are you bringing your “A” game?
As a professional woman you are used to performing under pressure. You place demands for excellence on yourself and demands are placed upon you by others in the workplace, at home and in your wider social life.
All of this can leave you not only feeling overwhelmed but also resentful. In order to cope, you may decide to structurally do a bit less, you tell yourself ‘I can’t be all things to all people’ and you hold back in one area or the other of your life. Recognizing when to pull back and do less is healthy and necessary, but how do you know when you are practicing good self-care and when you are giving in to doubt and playing small?
Here are some reflective questions to guide you
1) How do you feel since cutting back on some of your activities? Do you feel empowered and are you now free to spend time on the people, places or things that make you happy? Or do you feel like you let yourself down in some way and do you feel restless at the time that you would have been doing the activity that you’ve now given up? If something is lingering then it’s a pretty good sign that you choice was fear- based. Your intuition is your greatest guide. Download my intuition guide: 3 steps to heighten your intuition
2) Are you on the brink of some personal or professional breakthrough? Often we drop the ball just before achieving our greatest work. You’ve seen a fly trapped in a room, looking for an exit and buzzing close to the open window but not seeing the big picture and ultimately giving up. We do the same thing! Often we need to take one more step, have one more conversation, get one more door opened and on the other side lies the result we so desire. Instead, we choke and give into old negative thought patterns which tell us we can’t do it, are not worthy or that people will laugh at us for what we are trying to achieve. Whatever the doubting voices you may hear, make sure to examine who is really speaking, often that doubting voice is not your own.
3) Have you recently stepped out of your comfort zone at home, at work, in your social life? And has this change been met with some resistance from your environment? People get used to the way you show up in the world and the closer they are to you the harder it is for them to adjust sometimes when you decide to show up differently. Don’t let a negative response intimidate you! If you are being your authentic self and you are doing so without harming or disrespecting others then people will eventually come around, you will be an example for those who wish to do the same but are holding back for fear of being rejected. On the plus side, those who continue to give resistance, show themselves as ‘enemies’ which makes it easier for you to survey the playing field. It’s all good! Follow the link here to my blog post with tips for dealing with negative people.
Last but not least an encouraging quote from Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
So there you go, a few tips to get you started! Let me know what you think about this post in the reaction box below and share any of your tried and true methods to getting rid of doubt and staying on track.